tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post1635310895761258232..comments2023-11-16T06:04:52.817-06:00Comments on From the Mixed-up Files...: All Cried OutRebekahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03155961748607627711noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-29676267707788350022011-02-09T10:00:38.716-06:002011-02-09T10:00:38.716-06:00P.S. I forgot to say that do long drawn out "...P.S. I forgot to say that do long drawn out "shhhhhhhhh's" otherwise it defeats the purpose.,https://www.blogger.com/profile/18237637670039037538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-6831478970577178052011-02-09T09:57:02.759-06:002011-02-09T09:57:02.759-06:00Damn it I posted a HUGE long comment and my firefo...Damn it I posted a HUGE long comment and my firefox f-ed up and deleted it. GAHH. Here's what I remember typing.<br /><br />It's totally okay to feel frustrated and feel free to close your bedroom door and scream! *hugs* Babies are definitely not easy! When I was going nuts from "A" and her newborn colic, their mom told me it was a-okay to put her in her crib for five minutes a day and cry while I took a break downstairs and composed myself. I suggest that, but it's hard to hear those shrill cries. <br /><br />I personally believe in the CIO method, but not until she is around 4 months. Until then I suggest that when she cries in her crib to not pick her up. Lean over the crib, rub her belly in slowly gentle circles, and say "shhhhh shhhhhh" over and over. The "shhh" will subconsciously calm you down and her as well--and if she's gassy it is an extra bonus in helping! It may time some time for her to realize that your actions mean for her to settle down, but she will get it eventually. By not picking her up and saying no more than "shhh" it will slowly introduce her the CIO method if you choose to do so. Consistency is KEY with this technique. <br /><br />It is tricky when your spouse believes in a different technique. I know that I will be the stricter parent and Matt will be the pushover--just from watching him interact with the girls when he spends a day off to visit me at work. I don't have much advice because it is difficult to change someone's natural parenting technique, but be sure to kindly communicate with him if you are feeling stressed and frustrated with your differences. There could be a middle ground met if possible.<br /><br />I can't stress the importance of using that wave CD anytime she is placed in her crib. It's critical to get her used to the sound of 'night night' time. It worked like a charm when I was there, so keep it up and her brain will become hooked! :),https://www.blogger.com/profile/18237637670039037538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-33339058876621928972011-02-08T17:52:45.283-06:002011-02-08T17:52:45.283-06:00Bridget's happily swinging right now! Yay! I...Bridget's happily swinging right now! Yay! If that changes by like Thursday or Friday, I'll let you know, and I'll try your swing.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03155961748607627711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-19858012161958606392011-02-08T17:10:36.888-06:002011-02-08T17:10:36.888-06:00Stephen's swing can go front to back or side t...Stephen's swing can go front to back or side to side. We started with side to side and after a while we switched it to the other way. He loved his swing. He slept in it about 1/2 of every night until he was 3-4 months. You can also adjust the recline on his. If you want to try it out, I can bring it on Saturday.Lindsey Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17562675977975783085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-80594276914162902412011-02-08T15:21:42.370-06:002011-02-08T15:21:42.370-06:00Corey and Megan lent us their swing, and Bridget a...Corey and Megan lent us their swing, and Bridget actually isn't a big fan of it. She cries when we put her in it. Half the time, she'll fall asleep, and the other half, she'll just keep crying. My mom wanted to try it out this week while she's here, so we'll see if she has any luck with it. In the back of my mind, I wonder if Bridget would like one that swings side to side better. This one swings like a regular swing. What does Stephen's swing do? Her little chair that she sits in that rocks is what she falls asleep in most of the time.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03155961748607627711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-33013955896004930152011-02-08T15:11:25.344-06:002011-02-08T15:11:25.344-06:00Did you ever get a swing? That worked wonders for...Did you ever get a swing? That worked wonders for Stephen for a long time. Might be something else worth trying.Lindsey Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17562675977975783085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-15633718475486374062011-02-07T12:15:20.676-06:002011-02-07T12:15:20.676-06:00That picture of Bridgette is priceless! I love it....That picture of Bridgette is priceless! I love it.<br /><br />Also, this may be just me, but the first time I read the sentence, "She was fed with a dry diaper..." I thought you fed her a diaper. Don't worry, I figured it out right away, that was just my initial confusion :)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06558641786247770826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-55795978751048184062011-02-07T11:22:02.087-06:002011-02-07T11:22:02.087-06:00We do have a crib soother. We have a mobile that ...We do have a crib soother. We have a mobile that plays music, and we also have some lullaby CDs that calm her down while she's rocking. The mobile and soft music don't work all the time, but they often help.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03155961748607627711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-32408103247280807402011-02-07T00:34:49.198-06:002011-02-07T00:34:49.198-06:00I agree with Lindsey. While it's not recommend...I agree with Lindsey. While it's not recommended to let a baby CIO (We were told in our birthing/newborn care class) until 6 months it is really up to you and Nate and what you feel comfortable with. And it really does get better as they get older they do cry less overall.<br /><br />Do you have any form of a crib soother? It has worked wonders with Aubrey. We have never really done CIO with Aubrey because since I am home with her we let her run her own schedule, I am sure this will change a great deal if and when I go back to work. However there are times when she is really fussy because she has not napped or for whatever reason is tired and we have taken care of all of her needs and she still has is fussy. We turn the soother on put her in her crib and she just watches it. By the time the soother has cycled through she is out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-6513421737941183292011-02-07T00:32:01.873-06:002011-02-07T00:32:01.873-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-4082758195336289052011-02-06T20:03:26.124-06:002011-02-06T20:03:26.124-06:00Yeah, I used my iPod touch for all of that too whe...Yeah, I used my iPod touch for all of that too when I was up with Stephen. We have the book Ferber wrote if you ever want to borrow it. It was pretty interesting and helpful.<br />It will get better. After about 4 months they get a lot more interactive and fun. Just be patient and enjoy it while it lasts. I know that's hard, but I miss my wee baby now.Lindsey Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17562675977975783085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-15905171143109574072011-02-06T16:59:02.901-06:002011-02-06T16:59:02.901-06:00Yup, that's what I've read, too. Between ...Yup, that's what I've read, too. Between 4 and 6 months, preferably 6. From the beginning, I told Nate no earlier than 3 since the first three months of life is like the 4th trimester. The glider rocker seems to work best for us, too. I don't know what people did before the invention of smart phones, though. I must've played hundreds of games of Solitaire and checked my Facebook, Twitter, and Google Reader in the middle of the night to pass the time.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03155961748607627711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022086543782743452.post-25537183392994914082011-02-06T16:49:16.571-06:002011-02-06T16:49:16.571-06:00Cry it out worked wonders for Stephen. HOWEVER, b...Cry it out worked wonders for Stephen. HOWEVER, babies aren't able to self soothe until they are about 4 months old, so you're supposed to do whatever it takes to make them happy up until that point. Most (including Ferber) recommend that you wait until closer to 6 months to try Ferber. We had sleep issues (waking up every 20 minutes when not being held) at 4.5 months so we did it then and it was the best thing ever. I would never do it earlier though. But it's really up to you and Nate to decide what's best. That's just what worked for us. I seriously spent the first 4 months of Stephen's life in the glider rocking him (well during naps anyway). Not fun and not how I really wanted to spend my time, but that's what worked.Lindsey Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17562675977975783085noreply@blogger.com